In is an error to think of happiness Just as something that you feel, as in a passive sensory experience. The truth is that happiness is something that you do, not something done to you.
We are born dissatisfied, questing, unfinished. For the most part feeling this way is a survival trail it spurs us to build and innovate. Accepting our searching nature is a good step. letting our dissatisfaction make us unhappy is our choice. We are also born with the ability to appreciate beauty, empathize, and love. Being happy is a choice..
Happiness is a feeling that you do. We do not control all that happens to us; but we are in complete control of our response. I am not advocating denial or trying to will ourselves to be happy under all circumstances. It is our attitude toward our dissatisfaction that allows one person to be happy when another with similar problems is not.
The distinction in this way of thinking about happiness is the approach to overcoming our adversity. Making a change requires the belief that change is possible. Thinking of happiness as an action means I approach the problem as I would other problems such as; If there is something that weighs 150lbs and, I want to lift it, but I can't; I understand the process for changing myself or the thing to make the lift possible. This is because I think of it as something that I want to do, not as something I want to happen to me.
My point is NOT that we are born unhappy. We are born to quest but we can learn to make our selfs unhappy when life is not perfect. The best way to lift big happiness is to start small and appreciate the small things and take joy in them.
I always said that kids can learn computers easier than adults because they do not make themselves miserable when they make a mistake.
Somewhere along the line we can loose the ability to fall and get right back up ,with a smile.
It is easier to be happy when you are around happy people. In this way happiness is reflected back to you.
We are born dissatisfied, questing, unfinished. For the most part feeling this way is a survival trail it spurs us to build and innovate. Accepting our searching nature is a good step. letting our dissatisfaction make us unhappy is our choice. We are also born with the ability to appreciate beauty, empathize, and love. Being happy is a choice..
Happiness is a feeling that you do. We do not control all that happens to us; but we are in complete control of our response. I am not advocating denial or trying to will ourselves to be happy under all circumstances. It is our attitude toward our dissatisfaction that allows one person to be happy when another with similar problems is not.
The distinction in this way of thinking about happiness is the approach to overcoming our adversity. Making a change requires the belief that change is possible. Thinking of happiness as an action means I approach the problem as I would other problems such as; If there is something that weighs 150lbs and, I want to lift it, but I can't; I understand the process for changing myself or the thing to make the lift possible. This is because I think of it as something that I want to do, not as something I want to happen to me.
My point is NOT that we are born unhappy. We are born to quest but we can learn to make our selfs unhappy when life is not perfect. The best way to lift big happiness is to start small and appreciate the small things and take joy in them.
I always said that kids can learn computers easier than adults because they do not make themselves miserable when they make a mistake.
Somewhere along the line we can loose the ability to fall and get right back up ,with a smile.
It is easier to be happy when you are around happy people. In this way happiness is reflected back to you.
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